Hello! It’s been a while!
Something I have to discuss first. A while ago I was asked if I was bored. Bored? I thought I had misheard them. I’m not quite sure where that idea ever came from. Among the one hundred things I am, I’m not sure when I would even have the time to sit and think, ‘you know, I feel bored.’
I’ve been mulling it over for a while now, and to be honest it even put me off blogging. But then I remembered all the people who have told me they have found comfort, or a giggle in reading my thoughts, so I’ve decided I’m not going to let peoples misconceptions inhibit my life. (New Years Resolution Number 1, tick!)
Working two jobs, doing a part time degree, mentoring, church commitments, never mind a baby, a husband and household duties, my life must not be considered interesting enough or alternative enough to keep me busy. Excuse me while I roll my eyes.
Anyway, now that I’ve said my piece, One year of Motherhood. Where to start?! One year of sleepless nights, constant worry, baby brain (yes, it does last this long) and having a to do list that never seems to get shorter no matter how much I achieve in my day. But it’s also been a year of cuddling, smiling, and being amazed as I watch Archer grow into such an incredible wee man so quickly. Here’s a few things about our first year of parenting.
Naturally, the year has had highlights and lowlights. I was told ‘the days are long but the years are quick’ so many times by different people. Before I had Archer, I would have shrugged it off, not understanding what it really meant, but oh my days I know what it means now. There are some days, that genuinely don’t seem to end. Tantrums or feedings have been constant, or you’ve sang their favourite song 100 times and you’re certain its time to go to bed only to realise its 2pm and you haven’t even thought about lunch yet. Then somehow, you realise they have learnt 5 new things and seem practically ready to fly the nest. (Obviously I’m not keen on exaggerating) You are sure it was only yesterday they couldn’t crawl, yet they’re walking about the room as if they’ve always known how. It is crazy, but this year has been lightening quick.
I’ve already said it, but watching Archer grow has definitely been my highlight of his first year. His first smile, first laugh, first crawl, first steps…. such amazing memories have been made!
My lowlight has to be when Archer has been sick. We’ve had a bad few weeks with reoccurring croup and the chicken pox…. it’s been so hard to watch him struggle, especially when he’s still trying to give a wee smile among his tears and breathing troubles!
This year I have learnt that things can wait. Laundry can wait. Cleaning can wait. Getting dressed can wait. But babies need cuddles and babies can’t wait.
One big question I had before Archer was born was how our marriage would be affected. As a whole, we definitely have had to make changes. Having intentional conversations. It’s amazing how quickly things change and the only thing you and your partner talk about are nappies and feeding. It has most certainly been a learning curve, but making time for each other separate from our baby is becoming natural, and so important to us. I’ve also gained so much appreciation and respect for my husband. I’ve said it a hundred times before, but he was our hero throughout labour and coming home from the hospital. I’m so thankful for how he cared, and still cares for us.
Our parenting style is completely baby led. We figured that since babies don’t come with manuals, we would just let him tell us what he needs. Don’t get me wrong, he doesn’t rule the roost in our house, we believe in fairly disciplining and guiding him, but when it comes to things like feeding, we’ve done breastfeeding on demand (no set times for milk) co sleeping (for part of the night and sometimes all) napping when he’s tired, and watching his cues to see what he needs. I believe this has massively taken pressure of me to stick to schedules, and has created an amazing relationship between us and Archer that we can pick up on what he needs.
It’s been long and it’s been short, it’s been challenging, it’s been rewarding and I wouldn’t change this year for the world. ❤️